Fathering an Infant

For many men, nothing in their lives equals the thrill of watching their babies being born. Becoming a father is a big event. Being a father is something you can do every day. Showing your baby love and affection through holding, cuddling, playing and diaper changing lets your baby know that she is important to you.

Babies learn about the world through their senses. The sense of touch is probably the most developed sense that babies have. Holding your baby gently but firmly helps them feel secure. You may worry that the baby is fragile, or that you will drop them. Don’t let your fears keep you from enjoying your baby. Close contact with your baby lets them know and trust you.

Taking care of a new baby is a learning experience for both mother and father. Because new mothers get so much attention, you may feel left out. Remember you are as important to your baby’s development as their mother is. Here are some things you can do as a new father:
* If the baby is breast-fed, bring the baby to their mother at feeding time whenever possible. Change the baby’s diaper either before or after the feeding session. Bring the baby’s mother a cool drink or help in another way. She needs and will appreciate your support.
* If the baby is bottle-fed, arrange to do one or more feedings a day. Holding the baby, talking to him, and making eye contact increases the attachment you feel for your baby.
* Recognize that there will be changes in your household and your life. Take over some chores at home so the baby’s mother can devote more of her time to caring for the baby.
* Arrange for a “babymoon”, to give your new family time together. You may want to do this right after mom and baby get home from the hospital. Make sure that there are enough supplies in the house to last for a few days: food, diapers, and baby needs. Let family and friends know you are resting, and will welcome their visits in a few days.

It is normal to feel challenged by your new responsibilities as a father. If you feel frustrated, angry, or otherwise unable to take care of yourself or your baby’s mother, talking with a trusted relative, an experienced father, a counselor, minister or your own healthcare provider can help